When is the last time you took yourself on a date?
Yesterday? Last year? Never?
Chances are you’ve been alone sometime in the last two weeks. Perhaps ran an errand, grabbed a cup of coffee or a simple walk with your pup. THAT my friend would be taking yourself on a date… the only problem is our perspective.
I believe that in order to truly love ourselves, we need to regularly take time to be alone. I was watching this great video the other day about being alone and realized that I need to take myself on more dates.
I can actually remember the first (and only) time I went to the movies by myself. I saw Eat, Pray, Love. No one wanted to see it with me and I wanted to see the movie so badly. I was craving and itching and needing to go… so I finally decided to go alone one afternoon. It was exhilarating. At first I noticed that I was all alone and the only person in the theater but then slowly people started to trickle in behind me. Older couples on dates, widows out for an afternoon, a few teenage girls giggling in the background and a young couple off to the side who may not have seen the movie in its entirety.
The lights started to dim and I began to watch the most beautiful colors unfold as the scenes of Italy, India & Indonesian danced in front of my eyes. As I was in the wretch of heartache, this movie helped heal my heart and I felt truly happy & energized.
It was a wonderful experience and I know I should take the time to do it again sometime!
Taking yourself to the movies, however is quite a large step. I recommend first taking yourself to get coffee. Instead of ordering the cup to go, get it to stay and sit for a while by yourself. Try to shut off your computer (tempting though it may be to start working), and keep your phone in your purse. Sip on your coffee and daydream or people watch. I promise it’s heavenly to have the treat of quiet and observation!
In fact, just the other day I took myself on a date. I wanted to grab a coffee for the hubby as we were both working from home so I went off in search of a quiet cafe. I was intending to work.. but accidentally left my computer in the car. Suddenly my phone (which I forgot to charge) was flashing and running low. So I decided to order my coffee first and sit to sip. I watched people around me, observed conversations, studied the menu, daydreamed and wrote a few things in my notebook. I took myself on a mini date.
On the way home, I decided to extend my date. I took out my camera and grabbed the pup. After changing my shoes Apollo & I ran off to the beach. We had a fun photo shoot & game of fetch. He got tired of yelling at seagulls so we sat for a moment completely alone watching a storm roll into the Cape.
Sometimes it is delicious to be completely alone. To listen to the ocean or daydream so loudly that the birds can hear you. Being alone can be rewarding for the soul and healing for your heart. So get out there soul warrior and take yourself on a date!
Action Time: Leave a comment below remembering a date you took yourself on… or what you’re planning to do with your alone time this week!
Sending you love, light & delicious alone time!
Great post, Jenny! I LOVE this idea. Sometimes when I’m super stressed with work, I take a day to get my hair done, maybe do a little shopping, grab a latte, go out for lunch and just be. It’s so true that we need to give ourselves some much-deserved attention once in a while and reel back some of that generosity we always seem to pour out to everyone else in our life.
Thanks so much Janine! Taking yourself on a date is one of the best remedies for all things…. it’s nice to have not only a time out but a little extra love.