Getting married was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I married not only my soul mate, but someone who makes me laugh, who supports me and challenges me and who helps me to be a better version of myself every day. He is truly my very best friend, and without him I’m not sure what I would do.
We spend almost every day together. I love every second of it, running errands together on the weekends, going to dinner every week, cuddling and taking our boy for walks. It’s really is just as overly dramatic and romantic as you think: we are THAT couple. You know, the one that holds hands in the mall and still acts like newlyweds? That’s us…
My husband is my best friend, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have many other friends in my life. I read a few years ago, that the reason we have girlfriends and other friends in our lives besides our spouses is in order to balance our relationships. As much as I want to gab on about the latest drama at work, or the fabulous quinoa apple chili recipe I had while he was on a business trip, it’s hard for him to digest EVERYTHING that I say (I talk… a LOT).
This is the reason we have friends: to balance, to love, to help us get through certain situations and to lean on one another whenever we need to. I have been so blessed these past few years to have found such amazing friends on the Cape. My new friends range in ages and beliefs and it is such a joy to have a diverse set of friends. Friends who are just now losing their parents, who are on lifestyle adventures, diet changes, spiritual journeys, new beginnings, recently divorced, happily married, vegan, raw foodies, newlywed, pregnant, shipping their babies off to college and much more. I am BLESSED to have friends in all stages of life and thrive on their wisdom.
I wouldn’t be who I am today without the beauty of my friends, the ups and downs… the blessings and the advice….the joy and the tears. I have friends who would puppy sit at the drop of a hat, plan a retreat, teach me to eat healthier and more wholesome foods or walk private stretches of beach with me as the sun sets. I have friends who will hold my heart forever, and I there’s.
As I said, it’s so important to have friends of all ages and in different stages of their lives! My mom is a different age, at a very different stage in her life and is someone I now consider to be my friend (note: I didn’t write this article 10 years ago… ah how things change:)). This week, I had a unique opportunity to travel with my mother. Being in the car with her for HOURS & HOURS was quite the adventure… and we did well I would say. We bonded over silly songs, talked about work, discussed family & Christmas, talked about our next adventure (although this was her first in years), ate too much food and walked miles & miles amongst one of the greatest wonders of the world: Niagara Falls.
We started off at the White Water Walk. Surprisingly I loved this! I thought it might just be a boring walk… but it was breathtaking. We saw the falls across the river in America, and the falls upriver on the Canadian side. As we walked, the weather started to clear and went from 55 to 65 allowing us to shed our raincoats for a bit and soak in the sun. I don’t think I can use the word breathtaking enough…it was BREATHTAKING. I have never seen anything like them in my life!
We then moved on to do The Maid of the Mist. I am a huge water person, my husband calls me a mermaid and I will often not come up for air if I can help it. But for some reason, I was a big baby on this trip (I’m fully admitting it). I went inside the cabin of the boat in order to get less wet…. it might have had something to do with women airing out their socks and pants in the bathroom at the hand dryers prior to our adventure… or just that it was not ideal weather for adventuring UNDERNEATH a waterfall on an open vessel…. who knows. Mom LOVED this part of the adventure… I wasn’t so sold. But I’m glad we went!
Our next adventures were our favorites! We saw Niagara’s Fury which we thought would be a silly show about the creation of Niagara Falls. It was amazing! It was cute, silly, beautiful and we got SOAKED. Inside on this little ride, and our sneakers were squeaking. I loved it and so did my mom. We then traveled INSIDE the waterfalls on Journey Behind the Falls…. and we saw the falls up close and inside a cave.
Now it’s YOUR turn. I would love to see you take action & go on your own adventure and then comment below. OR leave me a comment about an adventure you’ve recently been on with a friend!
Get out there — find your friends– go on adventures– do YOGA & make life sparkle. I’m sending you major autumn love today. Snuggle up, drink some tea and have a wonderful day!
Jenny, your writing is so beautiful.. I love you and am beyond blessed to call you my friend <3 Wherever lifes beautiful journey takes us !
Thank you Rhia! Xoxo I know our paths will continue to cross as we are certainly on the same wavelength. Love love love to you. ❤️Jai!!
Greatest adventure ever with a women I am proud to call my daughter! Can’t wait for our next trip! Love you honey!!
Love you mom! Can’t wait for our next adventure!!
Oh, I loved hearing about your relationship with your husband. I’ve got a similar relationship with my boyfriend (soon-to-be married). Sometimes I worry we’re TOO close and will burn out, but it feels good to hear that you’re still just as madly in love and best friends after so much time. And I love what you said about having friends to maintain that balance.
My most recent adventure was with my boyfriend – we took a road trip across the desert to Arizona to visit my father, with whom I’m just building a relationship (thanks to my boyfriend!) It was magical.
Thanks for posting this! <3
You’re so welcome Sara! I’m happy to hear your boyfriend is helping you rebuild a relationship with your father–that is such a special place to be right now, even if it is trying at times. And a road trip is so much fun!!
It’s true. We are very best friends and I love him more everyday. It is about balance though. Sometimes we are too close to our tightly knit families and know we need time with friends or we spent too much time together and I need yoga or he needs video games (alone time).Sometimes it’s just that I need girl time with a glass of wine or we need a fun date as a group of friends sitting around a bonfire on the beach. Friends help us to balance any relationship and it’s so healthy to have friends in all different walks of life. My grandmother taught me to be connected throughout a lifetime with people. She still gets together will friends or write log hand written letters or emails to friends in other states when they cannot connect in person for months. It’s something I’ve held onto and I try to maintain all my friendships as best I’m able. 🙂
Glad to hear about your adventures in life. Wishing you love & light. ~ Jenny
Sounds like a wonderful trip full of excitement and bonding. Loved the photos 🙂